She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her. There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all.
She is my mother and I am her only daughter. She is the first person I met and fell in love. It was love at first sight for both of us. She bestowed upon me my first kiss, wiped away my first tear, taught me my values and helped me build my self-worth and tenacity to become all that I could. My mother is the definition of unconditional love. I admire and respect her for her accomplishments, honesty, ability to laugh often and untiring loyalty and love for her family.
When a mother first learns that she is pregnant, there is an outbreak of emotions. And learning that she is having a girl? What a thrill! She almost imagines herself in her little girl and wants to give her the best of everything. To be honest, there’s nothing quite like the bond between a mother and her daughter. There is something special about this relationship, which can never be expressed in words. And why exactly is the Mother-Daughter relationship the most important relationship you will ever have? Because it is the most intense, powerful and passionate relationship you will ever experience in your entire life, and shapes every single other relationship you create. To be able to care for, and love yourself, you need to know that you are loved unconditionally and nurtured by your mother, on the inside.
My mother is the most important woman in my life. She gave me the most significant and meaningful gifts: Her knowledge, her enthusiasm and her set of values. My mother has loved me, nurtured me, taught me, protected me, supported me and encouraged me. It is very true that a mother is irreplaceable and there can be no one like her. As little children we run to our mothers when we feel hurt. They clean and heal not just our physical wounds but also our emotional and mental wounds. In fact, our lives would not be the same without them. Even as an adult now, I totally rely on the support of my mother for so many things in life. She is my first call whenever I am feeling low. Through all of our high hills and potholes our bond remains unbreakable. The chemistry between my mother and me is strong, and no matter how angry I have been with her, there has never been a time I did not pick up the phone or call my mother. Sometimes just to listen her voice.
I often feel that healthy mother daughter relationships are defined by boundaries and qualities set forth by both the mother and daughter. Both have a responsibility to one another, and the relationship should not be one-sided. When correctly nurtured, this relationship can be one of the best ones out there. It demonstrates love, even in the face of conflict and the recipe for it begins when the daughter is just a little girl. Of course, there are times when we have our own conflicts, but overpowering every situation, my relationship with my mother, is now 32 years old and is still growing to be deeper each day. I wouldn’t go back and edit anything about our relationship. The truth of the matter is, I am my mother’s daughter and have been for years. The ties between my mother and me are fierce and forever. I am infinitely bound to her with our love, memories and her lessons, which are a mix of love, admiration and pain. I think of myself as my mother’s student who observes and imitate her in many ways. I do this now and I will for all the days of my life.
Not just on Mother’s Day but everyday of our lives it is important to remember everything they have done to get us where we are today. I’m not sure about everyone else, but I certainly would not be who I am without my wonderful mom and here’s why:
1. She taught me what it means to be a hard worker and why one day that will be so important.
2. She never failed to tell me when I was wrong. I may have hated it then, but I definitely appreciate it now, because I am capable of admitting my mistakes.
3. She is always my strength, especially when I am feeling weak and broken. I guess the saying that mothers are our “rocks” is extremely true.
4. Even when she had a stressful day at work, she made me dinner and asked me how my day was with a huge smile. This proved that even on our bad days we need to care for our loved ones.
5. She has never given up on me, not even for a minute and has made EVERYTHING possible for me.
6. She has given me the best friend I could ever ask for, on top of being an amazing mom.
7. Her strength, beauty, integrity and so much more has made me who I am today.
So thank you Mom, for making me who I am today and trusting me with every thing in life. During my lifetime, you’ve become so much more than just my mother. You’re my friend, confidant and partner. You’re a constant source of inspiration and encouragement, and your presence in my life makes me a better person.
My mother and me, we are from the same seed. The umbilical cord can never be severed, it just becomes invisible. Yes, there can be turbulent moments. But they are just moments in a sea of steady calm. The role of a mother is all consuming, overwhelming, and profound. I wanted to tell you how grateful I am for you. For all the love, comfort, compassion and kindness you’ve provided throughout my life; for being my caregiver during my early years and inspiration and biggest source of support as I’ve grown. Thank you, Maa.